Posts by Madame Quixote

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Need Some Advice...Thanks...

by aquagirl in

i am the primary companion and caregiver of my elderly parents,78 and 80..i am also disfellowshipped.i was baptised 2 months after i turned 12.got df'd at 31...now that my parents are really starting to need me,and i am enjoying them as people,the jws are starting the crap about them not being able to associate w/me again..its really hard to have an intelligent discussion w/a group of people whos basic recourse is "bcz the bible tells me so"...but i really want to be able to care for and enjoy my parents during these final few years that they have left..my father is stepping down as an elder bcz of the turmoil,and also cause hes just getting too old to want to deal w/it..but thats not enough for the dubs...they want total separation...anyone have any advice or tools that i might be able to use?

i know,i know,its awfully tempting to just cheerfully suggest that they kiss my butt,but this is a real issue..i have to find a smart creative way to deal w/it..i know that some of you out there are smart and creative and have dealt w/issues such as this..i need to hear from ya...like ,could i get my baptism,{at 12 yrs old] annulled?

do the dubs honor legal documents?

Madame Quixote

I wonder how much the elders are willing to pay out of their own pockets for a visiting nurse who's not disfellowshipped, as opposed to the free and readily available services of a blood relative? Ask. Give them an estimate for the cost of replacing you. Ask them if the GB will front them the money to replace you? Probably not. They'll lay off, at least for a while, after that, I'm sure.

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Do you ever feel that the elders were your friends?

by JH in

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or do you feel that they were just company men, doing what they had to do, to keep people in line.

Madame Quixote

Good lord, no. Now, I know there's a problem with protecting pedophiles in that org, but I don't suppose every elder is a ped.

I was 15 and female when I left the bOrg, so, NO, I definitely NEVER felt or thought or dreamt the elders were my friends.

They were old farts to me (even the young'uns) in starchy shirts; STUFFED SUITS, is the term; NOT friends, especially if you're a female of any age. If the elders were your friends, something must have been terribly, terribly wrong . . . wrong .... wrong .. .. weirdoes? No way!

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Scatty

by Xena in

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you ever go thru periods when you can't seem to collect your thoughts or stay focused?

i've been like that recently.

i hope it doesn't last.

Madame Quixote

Just have anoyather dreink, hun, that's what gets rid of all my scattiness.I'll be proud to die sober. In the meantiem, i"m jest prowd.

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I heard a term describes disfellowshipping to a "T"

by JeffT in

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i can't find the exact quote (i'll keep looking) but charles swindoll said of church discipline "we're the only outfit i know of that shoots its own wounded.

i think that is a very apt way to say what jw's do.

about twenty years ago a relative was diagnosed as bipolar.

Madame Quixote

I've been shot! I've been shot! And I can't get up! LOL! Now, where's my wine?

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Q: What do you call a Married Jehovah's Witness that.....

by NotaNess in

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offers a female jw to sit on his lap 3 times, then says "c'mon, i'll give you a dollar", like a tip for a lapdance...as she giggles?.

any guesses?.

and he has responsibilities at his hall, like someone in charge of the public talks or something like that.. .

Madame Quixote

BTW, I'd like to give your "nice guy" a real nice lap dance. It would be very expensive (for him) and would involve some very high heels and all of my weight - all in the most undesirable fashion.

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Q: What do you call a Married Jehovah's Witness that.....

by NotaNess in

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offers a female jw to sit on his lap 3 times, then says "c'mon, i'll give you a dollar", like a tip for a lapdance...as she giggles?.

any guesses?.

and he has responsibilities at his hall, like someone in charge of the public talks or something like that.. .

Madame Quixote

How is someone who treats women and who neglects their own child a "real nice guy"? Maybe, a real charmer, but not a nice guy. There's a difference, right?

BTW, I am NOT a charmer, but I'm a nice gal.

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Getting cut out of Mom and Dad's will

by journey-on in

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have any of you experienced this yet....being cut out of your jw mom and dad's will?

i posted the following on another thread.

because of one instance that i heard about last year from a friend of mine, i am concerned that this may be something the society is encouraging and may encourage even more as the new private issue of the wt begins to be released.

Madame Quixote

I did not read your entire thread, but I am answering anyway.

I don't worry about it; I just assumed a long time ago that I was cut off. And it's not so bad an assumption. Even if they have a good little bit of money now, I doubt anything's left over after they finish paying for long-term care before they finally (if ever) "kick the bucket."

Who knows . . . I could kick the bucket before they do ( and yippee, they get stuck with my funeral expenses - gawd I hope so!)

Just not something I even consider. If they were multi-millionaires, I might have actually simply pretended to re-convert, but a few thousand bucks and a little bit of land (on which I'll owe taxes and have to figure out how to maintain) ain't worth the concern.

If I find out I'm wrong down the road, I will still have lived my life on my terms and not on theirs, and that's all that really matters.

My family owns a good deal of property, but there's a good deal of nepotism and a lot of debt I'm sure, so why would I want to take any of that on anyway?

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Reunited With My Disfellowshipped Daughter Today

by skeptic1914 in

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long story short: my daugher was df'd about 7-8 yrs ago.

bitter and resentful toward me, abusive jw ex-husb and the elders that didn't want to listen to her side.

saw her briefly at my younger daughter's wedding in 2003.. my mom died last week.

Madame Quixote

I am so sorry to hear that you had to lose your mother in order to re-connect with your daughter, but it is good that you were able to connect. It shouldn't take such events to accomplish such bonding, but when loved ones are locked within the dictates of a cult, sometimes that is how it works. I wish you and your family all the healing you can get. Hugs! So sorry about the loss of your mom!

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